I can simultaneously feel belonging and lack of belonging

I can simultaneously feel belonging and lack of belonging in communities. For example, ethnic groups knowing cultural things, immediately family having inside jokes, co workers working on the same thing

But it's easy to feel like i don't belong for the same reasons 😂 like when i miss an inside joke, don't understand something specific being worked on, or miss a pop culture reference and have a hard time joining a discussion.

-anonymous 3